Are You Worried About Incontinence?

08 March 2017

Perhaps you have just been diagnosed with incontinence, or maybe you have self-diagnosed and are searching the internet for some answers and ended up here.

Man Worried About Incontinence

Incontinence is a relatively common problem that many people consider to be purely physical. The harsh reality is that for many people the problem can cause much more significant psychological challenges and issues, many of which are unnecessary.

If you are reading this page with anxiety, let’s walk you through a few things and hopefully put your mind at rest.

Treatment Is Possible

For a wide variety of reasons, when people suspect they have incontinence, they bury their head in the sand, and rather than tackling the problem head on, they choose to ignore it.

This is an entirely understandable reaction, it is not the easiest of subjects to discuss with your doctor, but unfortunately ignoring the problem is unlikely to make it go away. In fact, by not dealing with the issue and not seeking help you are likely to exacerbate the situation.

Make an appointment and speak to your doctor as soon as possible. If it helps, you could even consider writing your feelings down and sending your doctor a letter explaining your concerns and feelings. This will reduce the stress, worry and embarrassment you might feel and is also an excellent first step down the path towards a better life.

There are many options for treating incontinence, and the success rate is very high, although the quicker you seek help, the higher the success rate.

Surgery Is Rarely The First Course Of Treatment

Another common misconception relating to incontinence is that the first line of treatment will be a trip into surgery. It is entirely understandable that people are not keen on surgery of any kind, much less in our more intimate areas. To put your mind at rest, while surgery may be an option further down the road, it is by no means the number one choice. There are many other alternatives before surgery would even be considered.

There are many side effects of Incontinence, some of which you may not have even noticed. Here are some of the more common reported symptoms that people can suffer, some of which can be life changing; are you noticing any of these?

  • Incontinence Can Disrupt Your Sleep Pattern – Many people who suffer from incontinence become almost paranoid about wetting the bed. Consequently, they repeatedly get up during the course of the night, just to be on the safe side. This has the unwanted side effect of driving them towards exhaustion, affecting their concentration, and even lowering their immune system. Sleep is the time your body uses to repair and replenish itself, which is why it is so important to your everyday health.
  • It Can Destroy Your Sex Life – Leaking urine during sex is neither sexy or romantic, and subsequently many people who suffer from incontinence, can become too embarrassed to enjoy their sex life in the same manner as before. This lack of intimacy with your partner can cause depression and loneliness, even putting your relationship under stress and strain.
  • You Can Lose Self-Confidence – Urine can stain clothing, and can emit quite a strong smell. Some sufferers don’t want to go out in public in case they leave a wet patch on the seat when they stand up, or feel that people are talking about them due to the smell. This means that many people become housebound, and lonely, allowing friendships and social contact to fall by the wayside.
  • Your Work May Suffer – When it comes to regular toilet breaks, there are certain careers where hourly visits to the toilet are simply not a feasible option. A police officer, or a coach driver for instance may not be able to visit the bathroom with such regularity. If you work in an office, you may feel guilty about constantly visiting the toilet, or perhaps even worse, feel embarrassed that your colleagues and friends are talking about you. You may even become worried or concerned that you could lose your job, adding to your stress and anxiety.
  • Your May Need To Change Your Wardrobe – Many sufferers lose the confidence to wear light coloured clothing, for fear of leaks showing up. For many people, their fashion sense is an important part of who they are, so by removing these choices; it is yet another punishment they have to suffer due to their incontinence.
Woman worried about incontinence

The purpose of this article is not to scare, worry or panic you, but rather to help you realise that incontinence has far reaching effects into many areas of your life that you may not have even considered. You are not alone, and hopefully, some of this article will make you realise that.

However, the primary purpose of this article is to make you take action. The slight twinge of embarrassment you may feel when talking to your doctor will be worth it in the long run if your incontinence is successfully treated.

You will not be the first or the last person that your GP has treated with the problem, and they won’t be at all concerned or think anything bad about you. In the grand scheme of things, incontinence is a relatively minor problem that can cause massive side effects.

If you have worries, concerns or suspicions that you may be suffering from the early stages of incontinence, then please visit your GP today. Long term you and your family will be grateful you took this first step. It may be embarrassing, it may be difficult, but long term it will be worth it.